Practice: The better you get at it, the more confident you will feel. Start talking to people or stay stuck in your comfort zone.
Stop with starters: Nobody cares about how you start. Tell me do you remember the first thing you said to your friends? Just say what you feel like saying. Keep it simple and clear. Over time you can modulate the quality of conversation to different audiences.
Be yourself: Some people will like you and some won’t. If you be yourself, the right kind of people will stick with you. Never pretend.
Accept yourself: When you go out and try this, you might fall flat on your face and fail but that’s okay. Make progress, not perfection.
Be happy: If you don’t like being around you, so will people. Do things that make you happy, so that people can’t help but join.
Self-care: Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Show yourself that you are worth something and people’s opinions doesn’t define you. Go for the process, enjoy the small steps you are making. Acknowledge the mistakes, talk your way out of bashing yourself. Most real people listen for the sincerity of your argument. Grammar Nazis are in the minority.
Listen closely: Listen as your life depends on it. All people want is to be heard, to feel important. Stop thinking about what to say and just listen.
Keep eye contact: If that is difficult, remind yourself to look away and look back ASAP. This is an issue for many with ADHD.
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